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How often do you see a brand new Porsche, promotion or designer pair of shoes get your client more excited than the thought of quality time with a child or friends? The excitement makes their heart beat faster and they mistake this desire for their heart’s deep inner needs. And while we coaches know that our desires and our heart’s true needs are often very different – it can be life-changing when our clients ‘get’ this for themselves.
So, here’s where the Wheel of Life Template can help. The Wheel of Life Template is not just a powerful check-in tool or action planner, it can also be used to identify and prioritise meaningful goals – helping to create powerful “Aha!” moments.
The exercise outlined below helps your client differentiate between excitement and desires and the heart (our deep inner needs). It uses a scoring process to help people see what will TRULY make a difference in their lives as opposed to what they THINK will improve their lives. And because it’s a scoring exercise – it provides powerful ‘proof’ so that the brain has to pay attention.
Using the Wheel of Life Template to Identify and/or Prioritise Truly MEANINGFUL Goals
1. First, get your client to list or brainstorm their current goals and to bring these to the session. One great way to do this is to ask them to, “List everything they want to Be, Do and Have in Life”.
2. Next ask them to take each item or goal and using the standard Wheel of Life template categories ask, “Will achieving this goal improve my satisfaction in this area?” Wheel of Life Category Reference List: http://www.thecoachingtoolscompany.com/wheel-of-life-temnplate-categories/
3. For each goal on their list, ask you client to give a point for EACH Wheel of Life area that is improved by that goal. Tip: ½ points can be allocated if appropriate.
4. Repeat until each goal has been scored.
5. Now review which goals have the highest and lowest scores. What do they notice? What have they learned about themselves? How do they feel after doing this exercise? How does this exercise affect the priority they place on their goals?