I’m a Fixer

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I remember a time when I was 8 or 9, in a living room with my old man, my mom, my mom’s best friend, Armeda, and a few others. At one point there was a nickel and seven pennies on the coffee table. My old man said to me, “You can have either the nickel or the pennies. What do you want?” I took the nickel and the old man took off on a tirade about how in the hell I could be so dumb that I didn’t know the difference between 5 cents and 7 cents. My mother and the others joined in. All except Armeda. She was just watching.

Finally, she said to me, “You know that seven pennies is worth more than a nickel, don’t you, honey?”

“Sure,” I said.

“I’ll bet you have a real good reason for taking the nickel, don’t you?” she asked me.

“Sure,” I repeated.

“Can you tell me?” she asked.

“Yeah,” I said. “I didn’t want all those pennies in my pocket.”

The look she gave my old man and the others was priceless. I believe that was the first time I got what it was like to be gotten.

Fairly simple stuff. The “conversation” with my father was totally Unconscious. With Armeda it was classic conscious. It was also conscious during the interaction with my wife.

Conscious Conversation works in every aspect of life. A prime example of what happens when it’s absent is our Congress, but that’s another spear to chuck.

Conscious Conversation: It works. It’s valuable, nurturing, healing, enlightening, renewing, heart-starting, depression-stopping, smile-making, etc., etc., etc. But…, you can’t fake it. Don’t even try.

You want the full joy of Conscious Conversation? Just open your heart and soul and be over there with him or her. Be them for just a little while. Nothing like it. 


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