Abraham Lincoln knew how to connect with people. He knew about ‘Relationality’. He told stories, made jokes, and pulled the rug from under what people were already thinking. He often spoke poetically; “Fourscore and seven years ago our fathers brought forth on this continent a new nation, conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal. Now we are engaged in a great civil war, testing whether that nation or any nation so conceived and so dedicated can long endure. We are met on a great battlefield of that war.” People loved him or hated him, but he sure did connect.
He was especially able to hold opposites in his mind same time with conviction. He led the nation in a war that killed six hundred thousand people and at the same time empowered ideals of unity and kindness for almost everyone. He was not about getting rid of immigrants, demonizing other points of view, or coming to every conversation from a personally self-centered opinion. He was very aware of others and of himself in both the local and national environments that affected everyone and everything. If there was a ‘particle’ that allowed for his ability to hold so many contradictions and move forward with meaningful grace and power, it was the Interbeon.
The Interbeon is not an abstraction. It is an internal vibrational experience of ‘Us’ (rather than ‘Me’). Though expressed in language, it’s not an idea but a physical experience in the body. It’s not a thought, and talking or writing about it in abstract terms does violence to the opportunity of creating it and bringing real people together. Even thinking you can clarify it with abstraction or concepts undermines the reality of experiencing it.
Although we may start with theory, we have to wind up with experience that is not in the nature of a dual subject\object relationship. It’s the integrated universe of ‘I and Thou’ so well expressed by Martin Buber, and not a transactional universe of ‘I and It’. Imagine businesses with Human Being departments where people are more important than money, rather than Human Resource departments where money is generally more important than people.
The nature of reality is ‘Relationality’ itself.
Relationality means the way in which two or more people, or things are connected and how they are being with each other. Failures in sustainability, growth for all, and consciousness-based operations come from inaccurate commercial, political, religious, cultural, bureaucratic, or psychological interpretations.
Systems, organizations, projects, communities and relationships with the most available energy will prevail.
Good ideas, great products, and the force of will are not enough. Energy in this case means the strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity. You may also hear it referred to as vigor, life, liveliness, animation, vivacity, spirit, spiritedness, verve, enthusiasm, zest, vibrancy, spark, sparkle, effervescence, ebullience, exuberance, buoyancy, sprightliness, stamina, forcefulness, power, dynamism, drive, fire, passion, ardor, zeal, zip, zing, pep, pizzazz, punch, bounce, oomph, and more.