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I Am Not A Speed Bump!

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A speed bump is a kind of Hobson’s choice — a free choice in which only one option is offered.  When you see one, you’re stuck with it.  The phrase is said to originate with Thomas Hobson (1544–1631), a livery stable owner in Cambridge, England. To rotate the use of his horses, he offered customers the choice of either taking the horse in the stall nearest the door or taking none at all.  As a person may refuse to take that option, the choice is therefore, “take it or leave it”.

Most of the people I know justify, explain, excuse, rationalize, condone, or suffer in silence when it comes to their own speed bumps.  A more promising path is offered by my wise colleague Russell Bishop, who suggests these are learned behaviors resonating from lower levels of consciousness.  The more we give over to the lower levels, the more they become habitual responses.

“Breaking Free” is about letting go of the lies I tell myself — about myself, about life, about others — so that I can simply reside in the infinite connection that is the essence of Loving, which is the essence of Who I AM.

“I’m upset because . . .” is one of the most powerful lies I tell myself.  “I choose to be upset..,” is closer to what actually happens.  And that makes it easier to move into, “I choose loving..,” which is not the same as “I like speed bumps.”  It’s just, “Speed bumps may not be my favorite and they have no power or control over my choice to be loving.”  We all “know” this intellectually, which is why we are in awe of Viktor Frankl, who told us,

Between stimulus and response, there is a space.
In that space lies our ability to choose our response, growth, and Freedom.

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