Three skills - summarizing, reframing and paraphrasing - are considered core competencies .Yet, not all clients receive these skills well and as intended. Rather, most research subjects, who participated in the year-long development of a coaching model, did not consider these skills demonstrated empathy or effective listening. Nor, did most perceive that these skills necessarily facilitated their efforts to reach their goals.

By Cinnie Noble TO DOWNLOAD THE FULL CHAPTER PDF, CLICK THE RED DOWNLOAD BUTTON BELOW TO PURCHASE THE BOOK, GO TO CINERGY COACHING HERE! Before Conflict—Some Preliminary Thoughts to Consider An interpersonal dispute is often evident not just after it percolates, but while it is brewing. At these times, our increasing awareness about things that provoke us about another person’s …

Sometimes what is needed is a simple reframing of our circumstances.  The same goes for us as coaches.  The quality of life is not determined by the circumstances…it is determined by our presence!

Reframing a situation from something personal — or something you must analytically figure out — to “they just do” and “it’s one of the mysteries of life” can save a ton of headache, heartache, self-doubt, and mental torture that will lead to nowhere productive.