Referring a Client to Therapy: A Set of Guidelines, a white paper published in May 2018 by ICF, outlines the symptoms of suicidal ideation and steps coaches can take if they suspect a client is considering suicide. (The white paper is accompanied by a one-page quick-reference guide for coaches, available here.) Symptoms of suicidal ideation include:
- Talking about feeling hopeless
- Talking about having no reason to go on living
- Making a will or giving away personal possessions
- Searching for a means of doing personal harm, such as buying a gun
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Eating too little or eating too much, resulting in significant weight loss or gain
- Engaging in reckless behaviors, including excessive alcohol or drug consumption
- Avoiding social interactions with others
- Expressing rage or intentions to seek revenge
- Showing signs of anxiousness or agitation
The Question, Persuade, Refer (QPR) intervention is one of the most straightforward approaches to suicide prevention. (Learn more about QPR training here.) Question the person as to the level of suicide risk. Persuade them to move to a place of mental safety. Refer them to a qualified person who can help them.
Question: A good question might sound like: “Are you thinking of taking your life?” Listen carefully to the response. If the person has a plan and means to carry out that plan, you will need to persuade them to get help quickly.
Persuade: The person needs to find a place of safety in their mind. Adding hope and care into the conversation can gain the time needed to “bring the person off the ledge,” so to speak. Most people who are willing to talk about it are not actually holding a gun to their heads. They are looking for someone to talk them out of it—to care.
Refer: Help the person find a way to stay safe. The next 72 hours are critical. Work out a way for them to quickly seek and get help. Stay with them. Never abandon a person at risk.
If you believe your client is in imminent danger of self-harm, contact local emergency services immediately and stay with the person (be that in person, on the phone, or on the virtual coaching platform) until help arrives. Ask what means they have that may cause harm, and listen, but do not judge, argue, threaten or yell.
If you are concerned about a client but don’t believe danger is imminent, Referring a Client to Therapy (the white paper referenced above) offers recommendations and best practices for referring a client to therapy and following up afterward.
How often will you need to use this as a coach? Hopefully never. However, like CPR, suicide intervention readiness should be in everyone’s toolbox. You might just save a life.
This article was originally published on ICF Coaching World.
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