For a real treat, listen to the amazing, hilarious, masterful coach and 5-time bestselling author, Laura Berman Fortgang who shared all sorts of fabulosity with us from her book, (Now What?) and all sorts of goodies about the ins and outs of reinventing one’s career.
TOPIC: Now What?®-Reinventing Ourselves as We Guide Our Clients to Do The Same
Wowzers, that was awesome! We had Laura Berman Fortgang on the topic of Now What? Reinventing Ourselves as We Guide Our Clients to Do The Same. Laura really powerfully made the case for leveraging right-brain, intuitive awareness in the processes we use when coaching clients around career issues and helping them to tap into the roots of what makes them tick for solutions. She talked about the 3 blocks to clarity about what clients want and why people can’t see what’s next for them, and how to balance possibility with clients’ (and our own) very real fears, challenges, and self-imposed limitations. Great material and tools you can use right away with clients!
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MORE ABOUT THE LEGENDARY LAURA BERMAN FORTGANG!
Laura’s professional life is anchored by her international reputation as a pioneer and twenty-year veteran in the personal coaching field. Only one expression of her twenty plus years of supporting people to find meaning, purpose and satisfaction in their lives, Laura is also a best-selling author, sought-after speaker, TV personality (Oprah and All National Morning Shows), corporate spokesperson and interfaith minister.
Laura’s five books are now published in 12 languages. They include: The Prosperity Plan, Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction, Living Your Best Life, Take Yourself to the Top and The Little Book On Meaning which was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life award alongside the Dalai Lama.
Through her coaching company, InterCoach, Inc./Now What?® Coaching, Laura has trained coaches and provided coaching to diverse clients ranging from homemakers, celebrities and Fortune 500 companies to NASA and the Army Corps of Engineers.
Laura’s Book:
Here’s what one reader had to say: “There are a number of self-help books out on the market today and it takes a keen eye and quite a bit of research to separate the ones that are really useful from the ones that might not be so useful for you. I don’t typically read a lot of self-help books, so when I do I am typically fairly critical. Well, I’m happy to say that NOW WHAT?: 90 DAYS TO A NEW LIFE DIRECTION by Laura Berman Fortgang is the latest self-help book that I would recommend. “Now What?: 90 Days to a New Life Direction
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Gems: find the driving motivator behind the client’s choices….Help them dis-identify from their previous identity as an executive, mom, lawyer, etc….a career crisis is really a spiritual crisis. Thank you all!
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great call so far- thanks Laura and Suzie!
- No more clear corporate ladder or predictions about how you’ll progress. That world doesn’t exist anymore.
- Trying to build a linear, logical career is no longer possible today.
- Intuition…non-linear picking up on letting it grow out of organic truths rather than conventional models like left-brained, logical, chronological resume.
- Some people have rules they put on themselves that they can’t negotiate at all: “I can’t do that”…investigate people’s limits they place on themselves.
- What is the golden center of the egg? Your passion, your purpose, your mission…that can be center of many different eggs.
- More familiar with what you hate than what you want
Identity
Self imposed limitsThose are 3 blocks to clarity about what you want in your career…If you hate your boss, what do you want? “I want a boss who respects me.” Positive energy around what you want versus focus on what you hate.People’s careers are eggs: shell is everything that can be taken away ($$, prestige, trappings), but what’s inside is what’s transferable or maleable. - Include the happiness factors…maybe not pie in the sky vision, but new version includes those things.
- Mid-term solution: Opportunity to correct every time we face a loss or challenge.
- Help people trust themselves. People need encouragement and strength to rely on themselves and inner thoughts. Understand it isn’t going to all happen in 10 minutes.
- Clients struggle with not trusting their instincts or intuition. Our pillars of life are proving not to be trustworthy.
- Published first book in 1998: “career revolution” – no company loyalty, you don’t know if your CEO’s crooked or not; be your own filter
- Identity is one of the top 3 blocks of people getting clarity around career.
- Not being able to see yourself as the new possibility.
- Self identifying: Identity piece is huge to people dragging their feet about making a change. They can’t see themselves as the new thing; or locked into past identity.
- Swatting at symptoms versus truly finding the source of something. Pull them away from the wall.
- “crises don’t obey boundaries” ~ Jim Moorhead
- Driving motivator sounds like a vow: “I will never be like my mother.” or “I will get a good job so I can count on stability for life”. They become survival mechanisms. But we hold onto them too long. When you can recognize the motivation, you have other choices.
- Finding your driving motivator. Through someone’s story…it’s how they ended up with the career they are unhappy with right now. Usually a reaction to something from childhood; a coping method that has worked extremely well for you but no longer serves you.
- Look at their life story, not their resume.
- Every career crisis is really a spiritual crisis.
- Ego reduction therapy: trust the seeds are planted and things are happening with your client even if you don’t get to see it.
- I want that truth. People eventually get there…they know what they want under all the fear and reasons.
- We’ve lost those longstanding people who used to help us hear ourselves.
- As people jump from company to company quicker and quicker, we’ve lost our mentors and those who lifelong watch out for us.
- Trust the process. You can’t control the process. Loving witness, holding them as a container of wholeness, guiding them to hear themselves in such a way that they take meaningful action.
- 90 days you will GET that clarity…it’s 90 days to a new direction, it’s not 90 days to a new job.
- Make sure we’re really headed for the right thing, put your situation through litmus tests. There will be hiccups and distractions and what appears to be steps back, but the whole thing adds up to something.
- We point out issues that can look like therapy, but we process them differently. Set the conditioning up front. 90 Days to New Direction book came out of 9/11–I could only work with people for 90 day chunks. 45 days to figure out what they want and 45 days to come up with a plan.
- See issues in front of the goal that have to be dealt with. The beginning is to focus on those issues as opposed to the goal at first to clear those away.
- Losing momentum when clients can’t deal with the pain of the reality.
- Sometimes clients have to take a break from the coaching to deal with the real thing: sometimes they want to change their career, but what comes up is the breakdown of the marriage.
- Arc of progress with a client: they want a goal at the top of the continuum, but their life isn’t set up for that yet. Their schedule’s out of control, or they’re too busy, or don’t have support systems. Take care of the stuff in front of the goal. Continuum looks like: Clear away anything in the way, the big goal at the top, continuous action towards it and not giving up.
- Clearing mental clutter and physical clutter lets clients get to the point of identifying what they really want.
- Laura’s five books are published in 12 languages. They include:
1. The Prosperity Plan,
2. Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction,
3. Living Your Best Life,
4. Take Yourself to the Top and
5. The Little Book On Meaning… which was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life award alongside the Dalai Lama. - How do we live in the land of possibility without being naive?
- People so nervous about their situation, getting momentum going, taking action…don’t get hooked by our clients’ fears.
- Trusting the process…if someone is moved to make a change and hires a coach, they will get to the other side
- People are happy to have a job now, even if they are miserable at it, and too scared to move to next thing.
- How do we keep reinventing ourselves, face that need.
- Since 9/11 dealing with career reinvention with clients solely.
- Terrific, salty broad! Did first corporate gig as LifeCoachLurlene yesterday…
- It’s today! It’s today! Soon! At 12 noon eastern…Join Leading Coaches call today with Laura Berman Fortgang on career reinvention. GET DIAL IN NUMBER WHEN YOU SIGN UP http://bit.ly/jLhXw
