Steve: Right. Trying to add value is a really positive intention. And in fact, it’s even something you’ve been hired to do. So you can see that even taking up this job, it’s sort of a setup for this part to come along and say, “Okay, I’m the one that’s been hired. I’m one, that’s going to do this job.”
George: Yeah. And it’s gotten a lot of recognition along the way externally. So continuing to say, “We’ll keep doing that. You’re doing it well, so just keep doing it.” I’ve had career progression because of it. So I guess that’s what I should just keep doing. And I also see that it doesn’t serve me in, in other ways.
Comment: George is developing a deeper understanding of his rescuer part and why his job is such a trigger for it. This is important to recognized and I want to get back into contact with the hurt part where we can again move toward creating an experiential mismatch.
Steve: And this part is exhausted and tired and feels like it’s got a job that is really hard. [pause] So it feels to me like you already have some contact now with this hurt part. Is that true?
George: The hurt part is very, very present for me right now.
Steve: How do you feel this contact? Do you sense it in your body, feel its emotion, see an image?
George: Again, it is right there in my throat. And I just see this younger version of myself sitting alone on the bench and not really knowing what to do.
Comment: When practicing Aletheia Coaching, I often find clients report activation of emotional armoring in the cervical segment when contacting the pain of not feeling valued. There seems to be a deep connection between value and voice. Given this, I am curious to explore what he feels in his throat.
Steve: What is it that you feel in your throat right there?
George: [pause] There’s sadness.
Steve: Yeah. Is it okay to feel that sadness?
George: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Steve: What if you just take a few breaths and just feel this? How is that for you?
George: [long pause] It’s okay. I can be with it.
Steve: Yeah. I really feel that.
Steve: [long pause] How do you feel towards this part? This hurt part?
Comment: Now I’m checking for Presence with the hurt part.
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