Transformation occurs when a set of behaviors, beliefs, obsolete truths, and judgments create a breakdown that is no longer tolerable by the coachee. These behaviors, beliefs, former truths, and judgments must be released and then replaced by a new set that serves the coachee in the present and future better. By doing so, the coachee transforms a way of being who she or he is into a new way of being. When that happens, there is more opportunity for what was learned or developed in the coaching session to have a greater impact.
One coachee had a transformational experience while being coached that changed the way he related to his wife and child. He works with juvenile offenders to help them see where they have choice and then helps them to learn the skills that allow them to make the kind of choices that lead to freedom versus incarceration. The coachee asked to be coached on the difficulties he was experiencing at home. His wife and child were not adhering to ‘his’ rules and the relationship was tense. Through coaching, he discovered, that he was trying to control all family decisions just like the guards in the juvenile detention center did with the inmates. He became aware that he was subconsciously transferring a guard-like thinking pattern to his family and home. This awareness led to an immediate change in thinking, behavior and level of experienced happiness as well as and a transformed family relationship and happier home environment.
By becoming aware of behavior that was unintentionally adopted, the coachee freed himself up to deepen his relationships and expand the way he trusted himself and others. This then flowed over to his work and provided more awareness that he could share with the juveniles.
Generativity
As we human beings evolve, our capability and capacity to take action expands. When a person is coached, that evolution accelerates, deepens, and broadens. Therefore, a coachee is able to generate meaningful action that is impactful, purposeful, and has a long reach. By being generative in their action, individuals and teams can impact what it is they care most about in their life and world.
Taking some form of action is something we do much of each day. Our actions are not always generative or intentional. They also can be habitual, spontaneous, or reactive in nature. When action is generative, it is purposeful. Much of our organizational coaching is generative in nature. Coaching for the greater good is generative in nature. We want our clients to take meaningful, intentional, purposeful action that results in satisfying and impactful outcomes. However, some coachees do not understand how to create generative action. They are used to going with the flow or taking action based on the desires or needs of another.
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