There’s a pattern that I have observed in myself that I’m trying to change. Instead of being a “kickass person,” no matter what place or role that I play on a board or within an organization, I’d like to transform into becoming an inspiring leader.
I no longer have the temper I use to have. I now feel I can mostly stay on an even keel. I still rant every once in a while, but not with strong emotions and out of control conduct which affects people. Now I pick my battles. There are times when you want to raise your voice, and there are times when you don’t need to. So I am more even-keeled, more calm, more centered, more focused. This comes with either hormonal change or old age, and I am not sure which.
One pattern always comes to the forefront, and that has to do with the way I deal with anger. I had a short fuse in business. Interesting enough, a short fuse and intimidation worked when you were in negotiations, whether it was with union leaders or in confrontations with colleagues. I learned that being tough in that world led to success. Well it doesn’t work in most other relationships, so the biggest thing I have learned over time is the need for patience. I have learned a lot about being patient with youth and younger people, and coaching rather than beating on them all the time.
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