Steve: Right, he just wants to go play. How does that sound to you? That he wants to go play?
George: Go ahead. Do it, of course. Right?
Steve: Maybe you can say, “You have my full support. Go play.”
George: [pause] Emotion came up there.
Steve: Something’s touching about that.
George: Mm-hmm (affirmative)
Comment: This part feels lonely, confused, and sad. He doesn’t know what to do or who to be. George says, “You have my full support. Go play.” This feeling of support creates an experiential mismatch for this part. Feeling this support is emotionally touching.
Steve: What’s happening with him?
George: [pause] He doesn’t feel alone right now.
Steve: Beautiful. Yeah.
George: He’s smiling. He’s less scared. He’s comforted by that.
Steve: [long pause] What if you let him know that you’ll come back? Let him know that you will come back in another hour or two and check in with him.
Comment: The work with the rescuer part and the hurt part is complete enough for now. I want to shift attention back to George’s sense of himself. But first, by suggesting to George that he let the part know he will come back to check in in a few hours, I am setting the context for an integrating micro-practice for him to practice during the five-hour memory reconsolidation window. I’ll name this at the end of the coaching conversation.
George: [pause] Yeah. He’d like that.
Steve: Beautiful. And now just take a few deep breaths in sense, your whole body. Just drop into your felt sense. What do you notice is here right now?
Comment: Up to this point we have largely worked at the Depth of Parts using Parts Work. The two parts that we worked with have unfolded somewhat. This usually frees the client to make deeper contact with himself, which can create additional experiential mismatches. By inviting George to take a few deep breathes and sense his whole body to notice what felt senses are here now. This invites him to drop into the Depth of Process. Where we go from here will depend on what he has contact with.
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