George: There continues to be a feeling in my throat and feeling my heart, but this time with some softness.
Comment: My sense has been growing stronger since the beginning of the conversation that George is working through a vertical thread rooted in Unconditional Love, a particular quality of presence that I know well. The conversation has also touched into a vertical thread rooted in Innate Value. Phenomenologically, Unconditional Love arises as a felt sense of a kind of sweet soft fluffy delicacy that feels like a deeply appreciative kind of love, unconditionally appreciative in fact. George spoke about being a sweet caring boy. He embodied this sweetness and care in how he was with his parts, especially the hurt part. When I ask him to check his felt sense, this softness is an aspect of what he feels. I want to mirror back the softness and invite him to follow this thread deeper.
Steve: What is it like if you really just feel into this softness?
George: [long pause] The lump in my throat and my heartbeat picking up doesn’t seem as threatening as it was before. Yeah, there’s no threat there. There’s a comfort. I’m picturing myself falling into like a bunch of pillows and duvets. [pause] Like I can be held by it.
Steve: Yeah. Can you feel in this moment, in this softness, in this holding, it’s like, there’s this sort of fluffiness? This fluffy holding is soft and delicate.
George: And there’s also some strength.
Comment: George is right. The feeling of Unconditional Love as a quality of presence has strength in it.
Steve: Yeah. Right.
George: [pause] Like a bed, it feels solid.
Steve: Yeah. [long pause] How are you feeling that right now?
George: Still in my throat still. It’s soft. It’s solid. And it’s still.
Steve: Yeah. And what if you feel, this is the feeling of yourself and actually shift to first person language saying something like “I am soft and solid and still?”
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