Career Option Six—Escaping from It All
Not all the men and women have chosen to remain active during their senior years. They have moved past the role of Generativity Two and have in many instances also decided not to engage actively in the roles of either Generativity Three or Four. Instead, they have decided to leave it all behind and to truly “retire.” In some cases, Option Six isn’t really a choice: there are medical issues to address or a disability that leaves them unable to actively engage the world. In other instances, it is a matter of social-economic class: these men and women simply do not have enough money to think of anything other than surviving from day to day on a meager income.
For those who are comfortably situated in life, it might be a matter of priorities: “I would just like to golf” or “I am delighted to spend my day with friends playing bridge.” Or “I spend my time working in the garage on my old Buick”, or “I don’t know what happens to my day each day; it always seems to fill-up with something or other.” Sadly, in some cases it is a matter of burnout that has resulted from a stressful life and career. The outcome is stagnation rather than generativity of any sort.
It is not uncommon for such mature adults to “hide out” in a retirement community that is “siloed” from any contact with younger people or people who are different from them in terms of race, culture, or socio-economic status. While this should not be taken as a generalized statement about all who live in these communities, it is important to recognize that the isolation which tends to occur can have a profound effect on the openness to various generativity roles. In short, these men and women are now “free” from the responsibilities of job, parenting, and civic responsibility; they have often not taken the next generative step, which has to do with “freedom to do something.”
Conclusions
At this point, we are ready to move on to the second act. This act concerns an expanded role of Generativity. We move beyond our own project and our own children to consider the growth and welfare of other people with who we are relating. Yet, in moving on to this second act, it is important to recall and appreciate what deep caring means when it comes to our own important projects as well as our family. We must keep in mind that balance becomes even more challenging as we extend our generativity forward. In the midst of all this deep caring we must remain vigilant about our own self-care. This will be a theme that re-emerges when considering each of the four ways of being generative and when considering, in our final essay, how generativity is best nourished.
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