The Dynamic Engagement Model™: Combining SDT and Polarity Thinking
Let’s Revisit the Coaching Conversation
Coach: So now that you’ve reviewed the assessment, what are you walking away with?
Leader: I’m realizing that I was so set on not being like the previous manager and was resisting that way of being so much that I actually dismissed some really effective strategies. Seeing the bigger picture actually helped me to reframe the way I was thinking about a directive style.
Coach: In what way have you reframed that for yourself?
Leader: Before, I could only see the downsides of being decisive and directive and, in my mind, that only leads to disengagement and disrespect. Now that I can see the upsides. I’m willing to try out more of those behaviors and I see the value of making decisions to make progress.
Coach: What is now allowing you to step into these new ways of leading?
Leader: Well, it’s not like I need to learn a new skill. I know how to be decisive. I make decisions all of the time but what allows me to do things differently now is a change in my mindset. I now see decisive as a positive rather than a negative so I’m open to trying out these behaviors. The behaviors were always there, I just couldn’t see them fully. Now I feel that I can more fully step into my leadership potential and lead this team more successfully.1K Club