Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone. That was written by one Neale Donald Walsch in his seminal spiritual work Conversations with God. It’s true. Being scared and uncomfortable leads to growth and development in your life. Yes, it can be painful, that’s actually a good thing , it is almost certainly uncomfortable, but it is also the juice of life. How come? Because it’s exciting, it’s challenging, it stretches you to strive for a place or an experience that you may not have attempted, let alone attained EVER before. And oh yes, what does that mean? IT’S FUN. I know I’m not the only one of you that likes a rollercoaster. They make me quake in my boots as I think about them, and when I’m in a line at an amusement park for a coaster, I frequently think WHAT ARE YOU DOING? But then I find myself at the front of the line, and with trepidation, I strap myself in. Five minutes later, having thrown myself upside down and round about a few times in my seat, at great velocity, I am walking away from the coaster as high as a kite. Because yes, I am thrilled that I had a go and expanded myself to take that risk.
As Eleanor Roosevelt, wife of FDR, the US President during the Depression and the Second World War, is frequently quoted as saying “Do One Thing EVERY Day that Scares You.” Life begins when you start to uncover what really matters to you, what gives you a thrill, what gives you chills, and what turns you on. So do the detective work and investigate what is important to you. Consider your top 100 experiences that you are seeking to accomplish–do you want to refine the list? Are there experiences that you want to add to it? Can you enhance those experiences? What can you begin with? As Johann Goethe said, “Indecision brings its own decision. And days are lost lamenting over lost days. Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute. Whatever you do or dream you can do, BEGIN it. Genius has power and magic in it.”
Take a look at the resources you have available to you. Do what I have been taught to call an inventory of resources. What is available to you? What support do you have? Who is behind you? Who can you count on? When you really engage in these questions, you will start to notice that actually, while you have family and friends that are very important to you, and it is critical that you recognize them and that; the reality is that YOU are the one you can count on most, you are the most support you have available to you, and you are your own greatest resource. This does not mean to say that you are the most important person in the world. You are part of a much bigger picture, and you are just an aspect of that picture (a mere brushstroke if you will). BUT (and it is a big but) that does not give you permission to diminish yourself either. That is what I mean when I say you are your own greatest resource.