QUESTIONS
• Try to imagine a scenario or person about which you are
sensing at least one simmering sign that things are amiss.
What specifically seems to be simmering that is arousing
that inner reaction in you?
• How do you describe your inner reaction? In what way(s)
might the other person notice that?
• What do you think initiated the simmering? If you do not
know, what possibilities occur to you? Or, what possibilities
might someone observing the dynamics between you
suggest?
• What could boil over that worries you most? If things
continue to simmer to the point of boiling over, what would
you look back at and wish you had said or done?
• If what worries you does happen, what positive outcome
might you want to strive for?
• How will you respond and make that outcome happen in
a conflict-masterful way if what concerns you does occur?
What will your conflict-masterful approach be like in
more detail?
• How is that response and approach different from what you
usually do at such times?
• What do you imagine it will feel like to take this different
approach? How do you hope it will be for the other person?
• What challenges do you want to be prepared for? How will
you handle those?
• Now that you are thinking this matter through, what
opportunities have the simmering signs provided for you
and the other person?
• What else occurs to you as you consider these questions?
• What insights do you have?
